For the first time in years, Lateef and I slowed down in the days leading up to the New Year to focus on intention setting. Things that we want to do personally, plan for as a family, focus on in our careers and put intentions toward in our relationship. I am also reflecting back on this year and trying to unpack things that frustrated me that I can slow down and put intention around. To make a change or further develop.
I’ve noticed that taking a true break, where my mind wanders and I decompress, has become more difficult. I’ve found that it is almost impossible when my phone is attached to my hand. On most days, we don’t have a choice but to keep our phone near. Our children or parents may need us, our jobs demand us and all the calamities of the world call our attention.
I love my cell phone like the next person. Easy access to everything I need. But sometimes it feels like the whole world has access to me all the time. I feel compelled to respond and so I am constantly on call – for work, my friends and family and the barrage of ads from all sources.
A couple months ago, I started trying to “lose” my phone in the house on Sundays. I often leave it plugged in by the bed or in the bathroom and I try not to check it. I try not to respond to many texts. I don’t go on social media.
I blog more and actually read my book. I use the day to be more intentional about what I want to do, which is often absolutely nothing. I feel disconnected and it feels great. Some Sunday’s, I take that extra time and catch up with a friend on the phone. But it feels more intentional than looking up and realizing I’ve just texted or scrolled for an hour. And, I swear, the day feels longer.
This phone-free day is only practical on a day when your entire family is home. Some Sunday’s, there’s no way you can put your phone away – your spouse or child is out or you are still working. I should also provide the caveat that this is definitely not for everyone! My husband would never find this relaxing. Technology is his life and his jam. But for those out there seeking some tech-free time, this is an easy start.
Try it when you can. On a weekend day when you’ve got nothing planned. I’ve been doing it for the past few months and it truly makes me feel relaxed.
This is not living off the grid. You still may get a quick reply text from me. But making an intentional decision and sticking to it has done me good.
Let me know how it goes!