I was on the phone with my best friend Tatiana today, while also sitting at my desk pumping (and trying to hurry up before a conference call – always multitasking). She called me and then texted me and said she needed to talk about something (as we all do on the daily) and so of course I made time to call her. After getting the recap of what was going on with her, she said to me – “You know you are juggling a lot right now. A busy legal job, two kids under three, commuting, trying to get dinner on the table for your family, and even making time to be a good friend. Your husband is very hands on and helpful, but you really do a lot. You should really pat yourself on the back. You are juggling a lot and doing a really good job at doing it.” I didn’t actually know what to respond at first. So I just said, thank you. A minute later I circled back and thanked her again for saying this because it really made my day. Other than on Mother’s Day, we don’t often get praised for all the things we do. Don’t get me wrong, I know my husband is thankful and every night when I cook he thanks me for a wonderful meal. But, we don’t as women just take a step back and say, dang, I’m juggling a lot right now and I’m actually doing a darn good job. We get caught up in thinking about what we need to get on our next trip to the grocery store or target or racing home to spend the precious little time with our kids, partner or friends. We infrequently give ourselves a little praise for the grace with which we are able to balance our lives. We have to stop and remind ourselves and those amazing women around us that we are really doing an amazing job.
Thank you to my friend for saying this to me and let’s each give praise to ourselves and to a friend of ours on this day and often.
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